Where We Draw The Line

How to Know When to Say No

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Where do we draw the line?

The former slave and Stoic philosopher Epictetus tells the story of two slaves ordered to hold a chamberpot while their master uses it.

One slave agrees. The other refuses, risking punishment.

Which one made the right decision? Epictetus doesn’t tell us, insisting we evaluate such situations based on our unique circumstances and grasp of virtue. 

We have to weigh all the factors. Holding the chamberpot is demeaning, but it might also be the right choice. 

Is our pride really all that’s on the line, or is this an opportunity to exercise wisdom, justice, courage, or moderation? 

Did the slave who held the chamberpot shield his family from reprisals?

More broadly, will sucking up to an overbearing doner get a scientist the money she needs to find a cure for cancer? Should a politician co-sponsor a bill with his corrupt colleague to incrementally advance an important cause? 

Epictetus leave us with this guidance only: “Consider at what price you sell your integrity; but please, for God’s sake, don’t sell it cheap.”