I struggle with the relatives. Covid sorted out some irrational things about these “loved ones”. Thankfully, not having any social media accounts and realizing the gravity of the whole affair I minded my beeswax. I tend to red line people once they exhibit irrational behavior.
Many years ago it became apparent to me with a question: why do I treat the ones I love (sometimes)crappy? Well it is in my nature to test the waters, but the simple answer is
“Because I know what I can get away with” before relationship damage is a byproduct.
Testing the water when I know the depth.
Because we can, is the full stop to correct where I’m venturing. Just being aware.
The whole relative thingy for me ends up
With another question: Because we’re related does that somehow mean I have to tolerate their bs behavior? No.
Would I form a friendship with this type? No. So, that is the way it must be for me.
Gratefulness is like a muscle. It needs to be exercised. Well worth the effort. Jung thinks getting irritated at others requires us to look deep into our own flaws. Charles Krauthammer was grateful he stared death in the face every day. He felt it made him love and appreciate the life he had.
I struggle with the relatives. Covid sorted out some irrational things about these “loved ones”. Thankfully, not having any social media accounts and realizing the gravity of the whole affair I minded my beeswax. I tend to red line people once they exhibit irrational behavior.
Many years ago it became apparent to me with a question: why do I treat the ones I love (sometimes)crappy? Well it is in my nature to test the waters, but the simple answer is
“Because I know what I can get away with” before relationship damage is a byproduct.
Testing the water when I know the depth.
Because we can, is the full stop to correct where I’m venturing. Just being aware.
The whole relative thingy for me ends up
With another question: Because we’re related does that somehow mean I have to tolerate their bs behavior? No.
Would I form a friendship with this type? No. So, that is the way it must be for me.
Much appreciated, your thoughtful essay!
Sincerely,
Charlie
Gratefulness is like a muscle. It needs to be exercised. Well worth the effort. Jung thinks getting irritated at others requires us to look deep into our own flaws. Charles Krauthammer was grateful he stared death in the face every day. He felt it made him love and appreciate the life he had.
Agreed! Well worth the effort.